What The Heck Just Happend To Me? Part 2

 

Now back in Niagara Region, bed ridden and slowly becoming one of the worlds best insomniacs, all thanks to the bruised right rib cage and nasty jaw and temple pain, I lay there contemplating my future life.  I cant even open my mouth wide enough to fit any sort of solid food and just have that “gut” feeling that something is still not right.  One thing I’ve learned is to always trust that gut of yours, coupled by my love of Malcom Gladwell’s novel “Blink” so please give it a chance.  Fast forward to numerous dentist visits, panoramic x-rays, more jaw CT Scans and I now find out that I have not one, but three breaks in my jaw.  One is in the centre of my chin, while the other two are in the left TMJ joint and all I can think is, why was this not detected and confirmed while I was in the hospital?  I’m a born Canadian, but still suspect to mediocre health care that I’m not gonna lie sometimes seems very third world.  My life flashes before my eyes and all I can think of is, how am I supposed to continue working in my career as a Insurance Agent where most of my day is spent on the phones servicing our members and clients?  Our health care fails me once again and we fast forward to the present day where I find myself still waiting for a MRI and am at this point told by several dentists and oral surgeons that surgery is no longer a option.  Turns out my jaw has healed, incorrectly let me add and now its basically a matter of living in my current state.

So how does one stay motivated?  How do we as humans continue to push forward?  Easier said than done is visions of hope, positivity and comfort.  It’s at this point I realize the true importance of not only mind over matter, but true grit.  Apparently grit is a personality trait possessed by individuals who demonstrate passion and perseverance toward a goal despite being confronted by significant obstacles and distractions.  I loved my career, was excelling and peaking, and now had thoughts of a bridge burning beneath my feet.  

A lot has happened since August 2021, I sit here still jaw injured, off work on disability, and no clear road to the future.  So now what does the average human do?  Give up?  Fold the cards in?  Well, sorry that’s not in my personality, I’m going to be gritty.  Apparently, if you want to fly, you need to give up everything that weighs you down.  How will I know I can fly if I never spread my wings.  I still want to feel how wonderful it feels to fly.  I will however do one thing that I have learned over time…I will never ignore the effort of someone who tries to keep in touch because its not all the time someone cares.

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  1. AnonymousNovember 29, 2023 at 5:58 AM

    The Health System sucks…. It totally failed you.

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